Book chapter
Polite Strangers and ‘Rude’ Friends
The Philosophy of (Im)politeness, pp.75-92
Advances in (Im)politeness Studies, Springer International Publishing
12/15/2021
DOI: 10.1007/978-3-030-81592-9_5
Abstract
Norms(Im)politenessof politenessPoliteness allow us to interact with a diverse array of people in many different types of social situations. But these norms are often suspended or loosened in close personal relationshipsPersonal relationship such as friendshipFriendship. In this paper I explore why, given the very nature of friendshipFriendship and of norms ofPolitenesspolitenessNorms of politeness, such norms in fact ought to be suspended or loosened. I will argue that demands for strict adherence to the culturally sanctioned norms ofPolitenesspolitenessNorms of politeness across the board is indicative of something problematic about the friendshipFriendship—either it lacks the appropriate level of intimacyIntimacy or it is in a process of breakdown or repairing from such a breakdown. Of course, no relationship is beyond the moral demandMoral demand that we be kind to each other, and adherence to norms ofPolitenesspolitenessNorms of politeness can often be conflated with being kind. But politenessPolitenessand kindnessKindness are different concepts with different extensions and this has significance for what often happens within friendshipsFriendship: Friends begin to contest when slippage or suspension of norms ofPolitenesspolitenessNorms of politeness amounts to lack of kindnessKindness.
Details
- Title: Subtitle
- Polite Strangers and ‘Rude’ Friends
- Creators
- Diane Jeske - University of Iowa
- Resource Type
- Book chapter
- Publication Details
- The Philosophy of (Im)politeness, pp.75-92
- Publisher
- Springer International Publishing; Cham
- Series
- Advances in (Im)politeness Studies
- DOI
- 10.1007/978-3-030-81592-9_5
- eISSN
- 2524-4019
- ISSN
- 2524-4000
- Language
- English
- Date published
- 12/15/2021
- Academic Unit
- Philosophy
- Record Identifier
- 9984398456202771
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